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Posted on June 20th, 2019 in Uncategorized by

How Writing Rapidly Soothes your Emotions After an Affair

Dealing with your emotions after an affair can feel somewhat like riding a roller coaster. You can expect to feel moments of sadness, depression, anger, moments of disorientation like your world is spinning.

While having a strong support system and learning different stress-reduction techniques can help you deal with your emotions, there’s a different technique you may want to try that can soothe your rawest emotions quickly – writing.

Writing for just 15 to 20 minutes a day for only four days – according to therapeutic writing expert, Dr. James Pennebaker – can soothe turbulent emotions and have long-term beneficial impact on both emotional and physical health.

You don’t have to be an avid, talented writer in order for this technique to help you in dealing with your emotions. Grab a pen, take a deep breath, be mindful of your feelings, and put those thoughts to paper.

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Posted on June 20th, 2019 in Uncategorized by

Are You the Unfaithful Partner? How to Move Forward

You aren’t proud of yourself. The double life you’ve confessed to is out in the open and you can’t pretend to be innocent. You can’t blame your partner for not trusting you. You are branded as the unfaithful partner. A cheater. Someone they don’t even recognize now.

Does it do any good to divulge more? Should you dodge all the questions, swallow the details, deny the parts that will hurt them too much?

Won’t it all just compound the damage and make it too hard to ever recover anyway?

Maybe you can just convince your partner that it’s all over. In the past. Persuade them to just leave it behind and move forward now for the sake of your marriage.

Maybe they’ll agree?

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Posted on June 20th, 2019 in Uncategorized by

Are You the Betrayed Partner? What to do Now

“I’m having an affair.”

No one wants to be the oblivious wife who gets her world rocked.
Or the faithful guy who has a sneaking suspicion but hopes for the best, only to get served the same explosive phrase.

Or the partner who doesn’t get any words at all. Just the shock of accidental discovery.

Infidelity is that worst case scenario many of us pray we never have to face. “Betrayed partner” is something you never wanted to Google. But it happens. To a lot of us.

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Posted on April 22nd, 2019 in Relationships by

Affair Fallout: Common Effects of Infidelity

Affairs are certainly hazardous to your relationship health.

The deception of the unfaithful partner drives a wedge into the relationship. The resulting effects of infidelity do such damage that the faithful partner is left confused, reeling, uncertain of the future and questioning every detail of the relationship’s past.

The pain is a crater between them. The fallout stretches far and wide.

Any couple who has had an infidelity grenade drop into their relationship knows the kind of destruction, loss, and grief that can overwhelm the connection they once had.

Are you and your partner suffering these common effects of infidelity?

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Posted on April 18th, 2019 in Relationships by

Searching for good relationship therapy is, in one way, a little like looking for a good, honest auto mechanic. When your car starts making some weird new sound, you want expert help. You want a good, honest mechanic, someone who knows how to fix your car and will not rip you off. He might be a little rough around the edges, but if he’s a good, honest mechanic, that’s what’s most important.

If you need major heart surgery, you probably won’t care if the surgeon is undeniably arrogant, as long as she is at the top of her game. You want to live.

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Posted on April 17th, 2019 in Relationships by

I’d like to tell you about an early therapy experience that shaped my entire approach to individual therapy.

One of my earliest individual therapy clients was a distraught young woman who came into the Stress Management Clinic experiencing a very painful headache. She was a college senior, nearing the graduation mark, when just at the last few weeks of school, her headache appeared.

She had been an A-student all through school. But at the moment, she couldn’t study, couldn’t write her last papers, couldn’t prepare for final exams. The clock was ticking, and she was scared.

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