You thought you were done with the hard part. You kept your sweet baby alive. They survived their childhood. Somehow, they even made it through those horrible middle school years. Your kiddo is basically an adult now! And, just when you thought you could breathe and finally sleep soundly…this disgusting beast hijacks your child.
You finally found the love of your life. To you, everything about them is beautiful, perfect and special. The two of you are embarking on a life together and suddenly, they seem to become someone totally different. They look a little bit like the person you love, but something has taken hold and refuses to let go.
YOU just want the best for the person you love. Like any reasonable parent or partner, you are not going to leave them alone. You will do whatever it takes to get them on the right path.
The person you love and cherish is still in there. You might not recognize them right now, but they are in there. She is still the fun-loving, kind and compassionate person you love. Right now, we just have to work a little harder to help her find herself again.
Your partner, your daughter, your loved one has been hijacked by this monster. The things they are saying and doing are not them. Not really. You are all on the same team against this monster we call an Eating Disorder.
Let’s talk about what an eating disorder actually is. If your loved one is dealing with anorexia, bulimia, binge-eating disorder or an undefined issue, we can dive into the issues. Maybe we need to spend some time really dissecting the “why” behind it all. This is a multifaceted problem that just isn’t easy to fix. If it were easy, you wouldn’t be here. So, let’s dig into some of the things you might be feeling:
Let’s take away the idea that the parents are to blame! We cannot do anything to help your kid of you’re mired in guilt and blame. For partners, the desire to blame parents can be high too. But, we know that this is not a rational and logical illness. This is something that we have to work against as a team. As a unit. Because this monster feeds on isolation and shame.
Then, we’ve got to work on that anger and resentment. You might not even know you’re angry. It might feel horrible that you’re resentful. But, once you acknowledge the anger and resentment, you feel guilty. You do NOT have to hide from the anger. There is nothing to feel shameful for.
Navigating eating disorder treatment can be confusing and overwhelming on so many levels. Especially, if this is the first time someone has presented for treatment. We can sort through what is a must-do and what are unnecessary “shoulds” that can be thrown away.
Usually, I meet with parents or partners for 3 or 4 sessions over the course of three months to provide coaching and support. These sessions usually last around an hour. We try to make this happen while the person getting treatment for an eating disorder works one on one with another therapist here. That therapist is going to help identify the needs, motivations, and strategies for your loved one to use to help themselves as best they can.
If this team approach sounds like a good fit for you, let’s get started. We make it easy to get connected to me and my team, once you make the choice to fight for eating disorder recovery.
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As you now know, my passion and experience is in eating disorder treatment and addiction recovery. We offer counseling for individuals and families including providing substance abuse counseling, trauma therapy & PTSD treatment. Throughout the year, we also hold workshops and groups for a number of emotional & mental health issues you may be dealing with. Please reach out and let us know how we can help support you to live your best, most fulfilled life.